Recently I spent the day at my boyfriend’s house. It was just a regular day, no problems whatsoever. At one point he went downstairs for whatever reason and I noticed this app alert on his iPhone.
It seems that your boyfriend is suffering from what could be a number of issues. For starters, insecurity is playing a big role in your problems. Obviously your boyfriend doesn’t trust you; it may seem like he does, but he really doesn’t. I don’t know what kind of experiences he’s had in the past but maybe that’s something you should talk about to him. If you’ve never given him a reason not to trust you then he’s probably had problems in past relationships that are affecting his current relationship with you. Nevertheless, even for someone with trust issues, a GPS is just a bit excessive. You need to nip this in the bud now before things get more serious.
Dear Doctor Wiseman,
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now and things have been a little rocky. I’ve heard rumors going around about how he talks to the girls at his school and he tells them he doesn’t have a girlfriend. I find all of these rumors just so hard to believe that I just completely ignore them. Every time I ask him about the rumors he always denies them whole-heartedly and says I’m just being insecure. He always tells me that he loves me and that I’m the only woman in his life. All of my girlfriends say he’s no good but he’s just never given me a concrete reason not to trust him. What should I do? How do I get to the bottom of this? I’m tired of hearing two stories and I don’t want to end up looking stupid.
You’re in a tough situation my friend. To be completely honest, I’m not even sure where I stand on this. One thing I’ve learned from my life experiences is that females can be very jealous. If you really are dating a good man, there could just be a few devious people out there spreading rumors just to break you up. A lot of times what happens is the people spreading rumors about your boyfriend are the same ones that are going to ease up to him when you’re no longer in the picture. I’m just saying…
Then again, your girlfriends are your girlfriends. They’re the ones that are supposed to have your back no matter what and always look out for you. These are supposed to be the select few girls who actually keep it real with you 24/7, so I’d highly doubt they’d be steering you wrong and trying to break up your relationship even if one of them actually did have a crush on him. I know a lot of the times women can sort of be in denial in situations like this. It’s easy to look at other peoples’ relationships and say “Oh she is so dumb” or “How is it not obvious?” but when it comes to your own relationship, it’s harder to accept that fact that your significant other is cheating on you. My advice to you is to sit him down and grill him when he least expects it. If he’s got nothing to hide, then he’ll be fine. If there’s some serious dirt, then he’ll crack eventually.