There are certain steps most seniors follow in order to find a roommate. The process can be brutal, but its worthwhile in the long run.
1. Join the Facebook group
Joining the Facebook group is the first official introduction to your classmates for the next four years. Be careful though, the Facebook group tends to include all accepted students and a handful of current students as well.
2. Get overwhelmed by Facebook group
All college Facebook groups, no matter the size of the school you're attending, are overwhelming. There will be an excess of notifications due to people posting strange personal details or seemingly pointless questions. Don’t take the Facebook group too seriously. You only have to be as involved in it as you want. Weather or not you post is up to you, but take advantage of having a list of possible roommates set out before you already.
3. Friend a bunch a people….
This sounds creepy and goes against all rules of trying to appear cool, but the only way to make contact with possible roommates is to make the first move. Try to find people in the group who share mutual friends. The benefit of this is being able to have a third party vet all possible choices.
4. Message someone with a formal introduction of yourself
This part is very uncomfortable. You’ve lived your whole life being told not to talk to strangers online; suddenly you're doing just that and hoping they like you enough to want to live with you. All of these conversations follow a pretty basic structure at first as you begin to feel each other out. Basic enough, that some people even keep a list of conversation topics to prevent awkward moments.
5. Ask them to be your roommate
This step is where things can become really awkward really fast. The best way to approach the situation is to ease into the question. Try asking where they are thinking of living next year or what style dorm. Next, ask if they already have a roommate. A lot of people are looking for friends and while you thought they were “the one” they might already be taken. Monica Zuckerman says, “I talked to a bunch of girls who would have been good roommates but had already found one.” She continued by saying, “its okay I guess, now when I go to school ill already have a bunch of friends.”
6. Get rejected… and play it off real cool
7. repeat steps 5 and 6 until you find a roommate!
This part tends to frustrate people. Monica Zuckerman says she talked to just under 30 people before finding someone she really clicked with and was able to settle on for next year. “The entire process was worth it,” says Monica, “I already love my roommate and feel like we are best friends.”
Moral of the story, the whole process isn’t fun, or natural, but it is worth it. Putting in the effort and bracing the awkwardness to ensure living with someone you’ll get along with is essential.